The Word's Christian Fellowship, Inc.
#98 A Godly Institution                                                                           August 5, 2012

I attended a marriage ceremony last week.  It was an outdoor ceremony and I noticed a few passersby at a distance as we were waiting for the ceremony to begin.  I thought as I sat there that to those passing by our gathering must have looked like other weddings that they had seen at that location, since it is a popular place for them. 

This one, however, was quite different than any of the others that they might have observed from a distance before. Two wonderful Christian believers were the bride and the groom.  It wasn’t a Hindu, Muslim, Catholic, Protestant, or any other “faith” based or cultural wedding ceremony.  It was a true Christian marriage, meaning that both the bride and the groom had “really” said that Jesus Christ was their lord by speaking in tongues and were committing themselves to each other in marriage before God and those present according to His wonderful Word.  Two individual Christian believers were committing themselves to the “one life” of the marriage commitment according to the Truths and Principles of God’s Holy Word.

The great difference in a marriage between a true Christian man and a true Christian woman, as opposed to other marriages, is the commitment they make to each other at the time of their marriage union: that the Truth of God’s Word will be the basis of their commitment to each other.

The Godly marriage is an institution ordained of God for His children.  For the Christian man and woman the institution of their marriage according to God’s Word and their commitment to that institution must be recognized by each member as greater than themselves as individuals. 

Although it is popular to say, “I am married,” it would be more accurate to say, “My spouse and I have a marriage.”
The husband must be thought of by the wife as:
This is the man I have joined my life to, to build one life within the institution of our marriage. 
The wife must be thought of by the husband as:
This is the woman I have joined my life to, to build one life within the institution of our marriage. 

The absence of a mutual commitment on the part of the two, to build one life together within the institution of the marriage according to the Truth of God’s Word, produces a void which multiplies itself by the factor of time.

Within the institution of a Godly marriage there must be a clear understanding on the part of each individual as to what it is they are going to do together according to the Truth of God’s Word.  For example, Ephesians 4:32:
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. The motivation of one member must be the same as the motivation of the other member.  Each individual must be willing to accept the responsibility for the whole of what is accomplished within the institution of the marriage -
not just a part.

The commitment to the institution of a Godly marriage is not a partnership.  The marriage is one institution, one ideal.  Since there are no separate parts, there can be no partnership.  Each committed member must commit themselves 100% to the institution, the ideal of the marriage.  If one member fails, the other member becomes a failure as well.  In a failed marriage there are no innocent parties.  One member’s conduct may have been more destructive to the institution of the marriage - but both aspired to the ideal of the marriage and neither succeeded.

Any Christian man or Christian woman who aspires to the ideal of the institution of a Godly marriage must recognize and be willing to accept the responsibility of the solemn duty they will have in four categories:
1. The responsibility of the duty they have individually to God in the mutual commitment they made to Him.

2.  The responsibility of the duty they have to each other according to God’s Word.

3. The responsibility of the duty they have to their family, both the spiritual and the physical, both present and future.

4. The responsibility of the duty they have to the civil society at large.

The Godly, Christian marriage is an institution inherited from one generation to the next within the Family of God of Christian believers.  Each generation passes to the next the progress they have made in their building of that most holy of institutions.  Each inheriting generation should have the privilege of building that institution from the examples of the previous generations of Christian believers who built their marriages according to the Truth of God’s Word. 

I am so very thankful to God for young believing men and women, Christian men and women, who are willing to build the institution of a Christian marriage according to God’s Word in their generation. 

May God bless you abundantly as you do!


© Stephen A. Harrison  The Word’s Christian Fellowship, Inc.  4415 Yank Road  Wilson, NC 27893